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Guilt can be a powerful weapon for exercising control over another. Sadly, it’s rampantly and skillfully used by many people in their most intimate connections – with romantic partners, friends, children and parents. Irrespective of whether it’s intentional or not, guilt-tripping impedes healthy communication and conflict resolution in relationships and leads to feelings of frustration and resentment. In this article, clinical psychologist Devaleena Ghosh (M.Res, Manchester University), founder of Kornash: The Lifestyle Management School, who specializes in couples counseling and family therapy, unravels the layers of guilt-tripping in relationships, explaining why it is a form of emotional abuse, what are the warning signs to look out for and how you can handle being guilt-tripped by a partner....

In our society, changing surname after marriage signifies commitment. As though the woman’s devotion to the marriage can only be judged through if she’s changed her name or not. The husband’s commitment, on the other hand, is never questioned. Regardless of what society says, my opinions on the subject are clear. As I share my experience with changing surname after marriage, I hope you’ll get a better perspective to answer the question, “Is it necessary to change surname after marriage?...

The beginning of Krishna and Rukmini saga Have you been wondering who was Rukmini to Krishna? Or why did Krishna marry Rukmini when he was in love with Radha? Some of my friends have also asked me whether Radha and Rukmini are the same, or whether there is a bias in Krishna’s love for both that one was chosen to be his wife, and the other was left. Daughter of king Bhishmaka, Rukmini was a woman of great beauty....

Longing For Love Or Relationship And then, love also houses within its folds, the very opposite of what love is generally associated with. Hatred and ill feeling, so much so that one can die or kill for it. Crimes of passion have been recorded in every era and culture. Love and longing go hand in hand and so love carries the burden of its need to possess the beloved. Which almost always trespasses on the others’ rights and liberties....

Financial compatibility, or lack thereof, is something a lot of couples overlook before getting married. Whether you are getting married for the first time or the second or third, always make sure to sit down with your would-be partner to discuss marriage finances to fully understand how to deal with money issues in a relationship. Money and relationships need to be handled with the utmost care. There are some conversations one must have before taking the next step in a relationship, and money is certainly one of them....

My brother and I never had any differences in our younger days. We weren’t best buddies, but we were not rivals either. Due to the age difference of 5 years, we rarely had any common friends or interests. We knew, however, that we would stand by each other when needed. As we grew older, we grew further apart, but we never had any animosity. At 22, when I was barely 17, my brother got married....

Hello Ma’am, I am a working professional and live with my parents as of now. Last night, my mom took my phone while I was sleeping and accidentally went through my messages with my boyfriend. Sadly, we had had sex chat recently and also had exchanged some of our photographs (am sure you understand what kind of photos those were.) My mom saw all these and in the morning she questioned me about the guy....

My toxic in-laws made our life miserable They would try to create misunderstandings between us. They would emotionally blackmail my husband. It started creating a distance between us. I even thought of separation a few times. But I stopped because I do love my husband. We moved cities to be away from them Fed up with the situation, I started applying for jobs outside my hometown. After a few months, I was lucky enough to get one....

It all started on a lazy Saturday evening. Ghazals from my Jagjit Singh playlist streamed out of the living room speakers as I poured a glass of red wine each for both of us. We had nowhere to go this evening. It seemed like ages since we had spent a quiet weekend at home, neither going out nor entertaining anybody at home. Just the two of us. And it felt serene....

Whether they like to admit it or not (most will), sending nudes has become part and parcel of the flirting process in recent times. Using mainstream applications like Snapchat, Instagram and video calls are often preferred while engaging in sending nudes. It’s all fun and games while you’re in the heat of the moment, but have you ever considered just how much privacy you have while you sending nudes? Are your photos really your own?...

Being such a primal need, sex should not suffer from unnecessary stigma or rumors that can make it a bad experience for people. For instance, there are many sex myths men still believe that put undue pressure on them and change how they feel about it in general. 6 Biggest Sex Myths and Misconceptions Misconceptions about sex are more rampant than we would like to admit. When I asked my friend about what he believed about sex that later turned out to be sex myths, he said, “Dude, everything in India about sex is a myth”....

Trying to find love while your profession is so widely looked down upon seems like an impossible feat, especially in a world where hatred and discrimination still run amok. From the tales we heard, finding love seems irrelevant when your life is threatened while on the job. To understand the problems and the plight of sex workers a little better, we asked Colombian transgender sex worker Mia Gomez about the difficulties she’s experienced while trying to find love....

Louisa, who was in a relationship with Drake for 4 years, says, “We were wonderfully physically compatible, but he wanted to take a break from the relationship for a year because he needed to move cities and prioritize his career. “After a year when we met the attraction we both felt was magnetic. This only happens if you have intense chemistry with someone, and it’s definitely one of the signs of sexual compatibility....

It is important to talk about the issue – taking into account its seriousness – given how quickly a broken heart can descend into depression and even make someone contemplate suicide. If you are feeling low on morale and self-esteem because someone you cared for did not reciprocate those feelings, or took their love away, then read on to find some answers and hopefully light at the end of the tunnel....

But that’s not the case. You’re stuck without being able to see the people you love when you want to see them. How are you going to nurture a relationship in such circumstances? How To Nurture A Healthy Relationship During Self-Isolation Not being able to see the one you love can have an impact on your well being but if you follow these tips then you can easily tide over the situation....

Your trial begins as soon as you conceive. A pregnant woman’s hormones can either be turned off by the idea of sex or be a lot more involved in it. Luckily for my husband, he enjoyed the latter. But it’s not just the hormones that play a vital role in defining your coitus. The weight you put on, the ever-enlarging bump and even the unprompted spurts of gastric fumes leave little space for seduction to excite intercourse....

Husbands doing household chores should not just be a weekend event but a daily routine. In a patriarchal society like India where most husbands haven’t helped in household chores as sons, it is always better to divide the chores immediately after marriage. Home is an equal responsibility; therefore, whether a wife is working or a stay at home mother, it is mandatory that the husband has to help at home....

“Heav’n has no Rage, like Love to Hatred turn’d, Nor Hell a Fury, like a Woman scorn’d” – William Congreve Well buddies, I couldn’t agree more with William Congreve, but dare not underestimate the fury that an annoyed dick can unwind! You guys know I am a happy go lucky dick! In fact, I am practically a fan of happy hours and happy endings (see what I did there with words!...

Our country-favourite Salman ‘Bhai’ Khan used this as an explanation for the movie Sultan’s exhausting shooting schedule. Being insensitive about rape victims and trivialising the growing threat of rape culture in India by comparing it with his work schedule is a frivolous and an idiotic attempt to make his work sound more serious than it really is. And ironically he is the King of Bollywood. The industry cannot be the only one to be blamed....

Worried about whether you’re in it for the right reasons? Want to know whether your reasons for being with someone are healthy and robust? Let’s help you find the answer to why should someone stay in a relationship with the help of clinical psychologist Devleena Ghosh (M.Res, Manchester University), founder of Kornash: The Lifestyle Management School, who specializes in couple counseling and family therapy. Top 15 Reasons To Stay In A Relationship If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Should I stay in this relationship?...